Sounds like Mother really needs help but she doesn't seem to think so.
How sound is her thinking?
You could suggest that Dad thinks she needs to move in with one of the kids.
Even though your Dad has been gone for sometime it may work.
Either that or someone, a helper move in.
She should not be left alone!
If she's with someone on a 24/7 basis she will come to trust them enough to
listen
and then they could ease into suggesting that she wear her hearing aid, go
to the doctor
and so on. And you really need to get those credit cards from her one way or
the other!
You may have to take control over the situation to save your Mother from
herself. A lady
I use to take care of use to say over and over, "Once a lady, twice a baby".
It took me a while but I now understand what she was saying. When we're
first born we need someone to take care of us, when we're grown we're ladies
and do for ourselves but once we grow old we once again need someone to take
care of us.
Good luck and stay strong
Rosemary
kdesjar@rcsreg.com wrote:
> I am in desperate need of advice on how to handle several issues with my
> elderly Mother. Mother is 76, living alone and is mental depressed and
> is physically unwell. Some of her problems: She has lost 75 lbs in a
> year. She has severe hearing loss(the family has bought her hearing
> aids, she won't use). She has had partial dentures put in(never been to
> a dentist in her lifetime)and won't go back for necessary adjustments.
> She has not seen a physician(regular doctor)for 42 years(last baby)and
> refuses to go for a checkup. Financially she has run up several credit
> cards to the limit and will not admit she is in trouble. Her house is
> paid for and she could sell and move to a smaller house, but she thinks
> my Dad's spirit lives at the house(he died 25 years ago)and she won't
> leave. The family has offered to have her live with any one of us-she
> refuses. The question is-do we wait until an ambulance is called because
> she won't be looked at by Doctor's? How do we handle her housing
> situation as she can't keep up the house? Thanks for the advice
>
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