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A little history. My Mom didn't want to live alone so we sold our house, she sold her house and we (my husband and I) bought a house with an in-law apartment for her. She suggested we consult an attorney. We drew up an agreement: she gave us $25,00 toward the new house and paid $5000 a year for utilities, expenses, etc. She lived happily with us until she died 9 years later. We sold the big house, moved and bought a small home where we've been for several years.
Recently my father-in-law became ill and was hospitalized. He asked if we had room for him. We didn't but my son gave up his room and went to the basement. Dad has been with us for several months now and has made no offer of financial help. My husband doesn't feel comfortable talking to Dad about money and I don't think it's my place. We've had to modify the bathroom a bit but don't have the funds to finish off the basement. I don't want my kids to resent their grandfather but we just don't have the money to make the necessary changes.
Isn't it fair to expect at least as much as Mom did to be with us. Dad is quiet, agreeable and although I can see problems down the road involving the cost of his care, if we can't get past this, what can we do?
How have others handled this? Help. Where do I start?
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